Have you ever been surrounded by people, yet felt completely alone? Maybe you were at a party, in a meeting, or even just in a crowded café, and despite the chatter and activity around you, a sense of isolation crept in. If you’ve experienced this, let me assure you: it doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you. I recently felt this while in Siargao with friends. We had been partying and drinking for several nights, enjoying the island, letting loose, and having fun. But during our last night, in a crowded sports bar, I suddenly felt overwhelmed. Most of the people around us were foreigners and men. Out of all the tables, there were only two Filipino tables, including ours. The bar was lively—people playing pool, cheering at a game on the TV, drinks flowing on every table. My friends and I were playing cards, trying to enjoy ourselves—but despite all the noise and activity, I felt disconnected, almost invisible in the crowd. Psychologist Rea Villa explains that feeling lonely in...
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