The Trap of Overthinking in Healing

I’ve noticed something about myself: whenever I’m hurt or going through something heavy, my first instinct is to think my way through it. I replay moments in my head, ask endless questions, and try to come up with answers.

It’s almost like my mind is a safe house. Maybe it started way back when I was younger, when I didn’t know how to handle certain experiences. Back then, I had no tools, no support, so I did the only thing I could—I escaped into my head.

Instead of letting myself feel the pain, I shut it down and started overthinking:
“Why did this happen? What’s wrong with me? How do I fix it?”

But here’s what I’m slowly learning:
Healing doesn’t come from logic.
It doesn’t happen because I figured out the “why.”

It happens when I allow myself to feel again. Safely. Gently. Without judgment.

That’s why no matter how many books I’ve read, or how much advice I’ve consumed, some patterns kept repeating in my life. Because knowledge alone isn’t the same as healing.

The real shift begins when I stop running from my body and start listening to it. When I let myself feel the sadness, the anger, even the loneliness I’ve buried. At first, it feels uncomfortable—almost unbearable. But little by little, I realize my body can handle it. I can handle it.

Healing isn’t about figuring everything out in my head.
It’s about finally allowing myself to feel.

That’s where freedom begins.