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Strength Is Born in the Struggle

 I was watching Beyond the Bars, episode 3, when a simple yet powerful scene caught my heart. Hyo Min saw a butterfly struggling to get out of its cocoon. It was halfway there, its tiny wings trembling as it fought its way through. Out of compassion, she decided to help. With gentle fingers, she peeled open the cocoon, setting the butterfly free.

For a moment, it was beautiful—the butterfly spread its wings and tried to fly. But it didn’t make it far. It fluttered weakly, barely reaching the ceiling before falling to the ground. That moment broke something in her... and in me, too.

Then came the realization: the butterfly needed that struggle. The twisting, the pushing, the fight to escape the cocoon—those were not just moments of pain, but moments of becoming. That very effort strengthens its wings and drains excess fluid from its body, allowing it to fly. By helping too soon, Hyo Min unintentionally took away the butterfly’s chance to grow strong enough for the sky.

And I thought—aren’t we the same?

We all have our cocoons. Times when life feels too tight, too painful, too heavy to breathe. We think, If only someone could help me out of this. We pray for shortcuts, easy exits, soft landings. But sometimes, the struggle is what shapes us. The fight is what prepares us. The pain is what makes our wings strong enough to soar later.

Without those sleepless nights, rejections, heartbreaks, and setbacks, maybe we’d never learn endurance. Maybe we’d never learn courage. Maybe we’d never learn to fly at all.

So if today feels like you’re trapped inside your own cocoon, remember this: it’s not the end. It’s a sacred process. You’re not being punished—you’re being prepared.

One day, when you finally spread your wings and rise, you’ll understand why you had to go through it.

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