You Don’t Attract What You Want, You Attract What You Are

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about this line I came across:

“The universe will not give you what you want. It gives you what you are.”

At first, I didn’t quite understand it. I mean, haven’t we always been told to ask, to manifest, to believe in what we want?
But the more I sat with it, the more it made sense — painfully, beautifully, deeply.

There were seasons in my life when I wanted so much.
I wanted love that felt safe.
I wanted peace after chaos.
I wanted opportunities that would prove my worth.

I prayed, I journaled, I visualized — but underneath it all, I was still vibrating with lack.
I was asking the universe to fill a void I hadn’t yet learned to fill within myself.

And that’s the thing — when you emit the frequency of want, what you’re really telling the universe is, “I don’t have it yet.”
You’re chasing something outside of you, believing that when it arrives, you’ll finally feel complete.

But the truth is, the moment you become what you seek, life starts to mirror it back to you.
When you feel peace, peace finds you.
When you live with love, love meets you halfway.
When you believe you’re enough, the world suddenly agrees.

The Shift From Wanting to Being

There was a time when I was always chasing the next thing — a sign, a message, an answered prayer. I would visualize, but at the same time, I would question. When will it come? What if it doesn’t? What if I’m not ready?

It was exhausting.

Until one day, I read something that completely shifted my perspective. It said, “When you put your destination into your car’s GPS, do you question whether you’ll get there, or do you just drive?”

That hit me hard.

Because honestly, I realized that when I set a goal or wish for something, I keep questioning every step — as if I don’t trust the process.
But the GPS doesn’t panic. It doesn’t say, “Oh no, what if there’s traffic?” It just calmly says, “Turn right in 500 meters.”

And maybe that’s how manifestation works. Once we set our intention clearly, we just need to take the next right turn.
We don’t have to see the entire road — just trust that we’re being guided toward it.

It’s No Longer If — It’s When

Now, when I think about the things I desire, I try not to chase them.
Instead, I sit quietly and imagine what it would feel like to already have them.
Not someday. Not later. Now.

And in that moment, I realize — I don’t need to beg for it.
Because the universe doesn’t respond to begging; it responds to being.

It’s no longer about if it will happen. It’s about when.
And the moment I start living as if it’s already here, life starts unfolding in small, magical ways — gentle confirmations that I’m on the right path.

So now, instead of asking, “When will it come?”
I ask myself, “Who do I need to become for it to arrive?”

And slowly, gently, I’m learning to become her.