Day 25: Healing My Connections and Myself

This post is part of my 30 day journey reflecting on Carl Jung’s teachings and how they unfold in my own life. Each day, I explore a different aspect of the psyche, inner growth, and self discovery through personal reflection.

Today I thought about the friendships I have had and how they shaped me. Some friendships brought joy, laughter, and growth. Others left me feeling small, misunderstood, or uncertain. Jung believed that the relationships we have in our lives are mirrors, reflecting parts of ourselves we may not fully see.

I noticed moments where I have felt hurt or left out. Moments where I held back my thoughts or feelings to avoid conflict. Moments where I wished I had been more honest or brave. These experiences were not failures. They were lessons, showing me where I needed to care for myself and set healthy boundaries.

I also reflected on the friendships that lifted me, that made me feel seen and valued. Those connections reminded me that I deserve respect, kindness, and understanding. They showed me how to give these things to myself as well.

Today I tried to let go of any lingering guilt or shame from past friendships. I reminded myself that I can learn from every connection without holding on to pain. I can choose to carry forward the love and laughter, and leave behind what no longer serves me.

Healing my friendships also means healing myself. It means understanding my needs, being honest about my feelings, and approaching my connections with both courage and compassion.

Today I take a small step toward healthier, more authentic relationships, and toward becoming a version of myself who can fully enjoy the gift of true friendship.

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